My husband and I are going on 10 years of marriage. We met young and we married young. As we approach our 10 year wedding anniversary in March, I reminisce on our early years of marriage. It wasn’t easy in the beginning. We fought a lot but I was normally about money or little things that annoyed us about each other. Throughout the years we have finally found common ground and know much more about each other. With that said, here is some marriage advice from a 30 year old wife.
Never stop dating. Go on a date at least once every other week or if you can’t do that once a month. Set it up and stay consistent. Hubby and I are fortunate enough to go once a week. This is a great way for us to discuss our current mindset, our goals for our home, and maybe discuss things that are heavy on our heart. The more you know about your spouse, the better your connection can be.
If you have a problem with your spouse, TELL THEM. They cannot read your mind! I can’t stress this one enough. You don’t need your friend’s advice to talk to your spouse about what they’re doing wrong. Go straight to the source, away from your kiddos, and have a heart-to-heart. At this point, you both have to be open minded.
If you’re fighting with your spouse, don’t run to mommy and daddy. This is the best advice my dad gave me before I got married. He goes on to say, we want to love your spouse and if you want us to love them like you do, when you speak of them, you need to speak highly of them.
(of course, this relates to the petty arguments that we all have in the beginning, NOT mental abuse and physical fighting. please reach out to someone you trust if you are the victim of mental or physical abuse.)
Have time apart from your spouse. Time away is healthy, and NORMAL! From time to time, I will run off and get a pedi or a massage and he will spend the day with an old buddy browsing a gun show or co-op, then we’ll meet up for dinner and talk about our day. There is nothing wrong at all with having a little time apart.
Communication is Key. This one is so important. When my husband and I get into a disagreement or arn’t seeing eye to eye, we always have to remind each other were on the same team
When it’s all said and done, we are not the perfect couple but we have found what works for us. We have found our common denominator and our happy medium with just implementing these simple suggestions I have listed here today for you.
Whether you’re engaged, newlywed, married for X years, or simply just dating your person, I hope you find YOUR happy medium and your relationship flourishes and you find that strong bond for many years to come. Much love, my friend <3
